You Make a Good First Impression

You probably are making a much better impression than you realize. Social situations can be a bit awkward for you at times, and you tend to over think what you say and do. If you make a social faux pas, you remember it a lot longer than anyone else does. Just relax and do your best. There are little things you can do to improve your social image. Express more of an interest in the people around you, and be a good listener. The secret of fascinating people is that they find everyone else fascinating!

What Kind of First Impression Do You Make?

been a while since my last post. and i really miss blogging and blog hopping. so here's my first post for this month. kind of fuss because i'm struggling now- inside. insecurities and low self esteem. been trying to cope up by not pitying myself, by not thinking about it. but there were times like now couldn't help it.

So what I do each time-finding strength through our Lord God. I think of him and then positive thoughts come afterwards. I shouldn't be negative that I have to continue myself up. So I could move forward. Now I found a better way. My sister has a pocketbook –daily gospel. Never have I opened it before for bible reading is a bit boring for me because I hardly understand what they really mean. But it’s different with the bible since it has commentary after the gospel that made me more understand the context.

They say the bible has the answers to our questions. Just when you feel downbeat, confuse and in pain open it, read and be enlighten to what you should feel and how you should react to the situation. I’ve been hearing this from talk shows and inside pbb house told by a housemate. So I tried it and I started doing it yesterday and I’m so amazed.

Right now, I feel so trivial and I don’t want to pity and let myself be really like that. so i open the book and this is what it says:

1^st reading: Jer 18:1-6

Gospel: Mt 13:47-53

Jesus said to the crowds,” Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a big fishing net let down into the sea, in every kind of fish has been caught. When there is full, it is dragged ashore. Then they sit down and gather the good fish in buckets, but throw the worthless ones away.”

“That is how it will be at the end of time; the angels will go out to separate the wicked from the just and throw them into the blazing furnace, where they will weep and gnashed their teeth.”

Jesus asked, “Have you all understood all these things?” “Yes, they answered. So he said to them, “You will see that every teacher of the Law who becomes a disciple of kingdom is like a householder who can produce from his store things both new and old.” When Jesus had finished these parables, he left the place.

The commentary:

We can find anything on the net, many good things and also a lot of garbage. The internet is the most comprehensive mirror that human race has ever had. By speaking of the “net,” Jesus reminds us that the first activity of the church must be mission: “to catch people”. Many of them surely will not persevere, but a Church that encloses itself and forgets its missionary dimension would die. How we would like to have a perfect “catch,” a perfect Church made only for upright persons! Christ, however, did not want a Church like that, nor is that the way for the church to save the world. Good and evil will fill the net, we need to the patience of good fisherfolk; patience with ourselves and with others, patience with so many situation in life.

Though i found the gospel is for me in a different way the commentary talks about. but help me feels better for it made me realized that all i have to do is to be patient. and that's the only way i could and should right now.

few times in the past it happens and still happening again and again and again. why i say this?
something reminded me an instance in life.

our cousin bring her roller blades when she visited us so we tried it me first then my sis younger than me. i told her we do some stunts. She agreed willing and trusting. imitating a scene from "cutting edge". a movie about the ice skating where the lead stars doing the most dangerous stunts holding each other making a circle motion. i am barefooted and she got the blades.

without the real knowledge of how it is supposed to be done it became a disaster. I couldn't control the speed and my sister weight added that makes it so hard to stop.

she's calling, screaming so loud and we're both scared .

couldn't do anything. ----------------- "bog!"

my sister on the floor. teary eyed she was.

our mother seeing all of it screamed,
She raved.
i cringed.
ranted some more. " ANONG NASA ISIP MO?!"
i had no answer .

pondering what's the answer. i realized i wasn't really thinking.

See that's the problem... I wasn't thinking. I just acted without thinking in advance... which is how most acts of stupidity occur. How could I make her understand that I wasn't responsible? for it was supposed to be all for fun.
sometimes when we're overwhelm with so much joy and fun it could bring, we sometimes forgot demons are just lurking for a chance to have some more.

i have read a story entitle: beauty of form and beauty of mind by hans christian andersen.
a story about a well-off sculptor named alfred who went back to his native land after 10 years in italy. in a welcoming party for him he met a lovely lady named karen malena short for kaela but some said she was dull and slept late in the morning. still she became his wife. She may looked like a doll but he found himself in a quite embarrassing moment when his mother-in-law and kaela talking nonsense in a party they attended. one time, he met her friend sophy, not as pretty as kaela but a very sensible girl, when she visits kaela. they consequently travelled to italy. since kaela and her mother aren't used to do that, travelling became wearisome to them . kaela got sick and died. alfred who is still young marry sophy, exact opposite of kaela. and he realized the good things he should value more which is the beauty of mind instead of form.

as a sculptor he initially chose the beauty that is visible but now he knew what's better.

best quotable quotes:
"the chief thing still remains. you came to teach a sculptor that his work is but dust and clay only, an outward form made of material that decays , and what we should seek to obtain is the ethereal essence of mind and spirit." -alfred says to his wife sophy.
"... souls are attracted to each other by sympathy, there everything beautiful itself, and is raised to the higher state of existence: her soul will acquire such completeness that it may harmonize with yours and you will then once more utter your first rapturous exclamation of your love, 'Beautiful, most beautiful!'"- sophy replied.

click the venus sculpture above to have the full text of the story

pbb update:
last night is a heart warming moment to hm's [want to say that its very heart warming but it's still early to say that because for sure kuya has a lot of touching surprises to hm's which will definitely melt our hearts.Haaayyyy....
mccoy made a sacrifice for his baby who's wishing a barbie for her b-day. he dressed up like a barbie, assembled mutilated barbie and was trapped inside a display box in the garden. while other hm's, getting a little emotional, want to help him but they don't know how .

watching them how they show their concern to their co-hm's and doing the sacrifice even it's hard and awkward for them to do it made me cry.

barbie mccoy

explosion in glorietta 2 located in Makati!!!
according to latest news update on tv 8 people died and 70 wounded. the explosion is likely a bomb! earlier in the updates probable cause of the blast could be an lpg or a bomb and they flash some video showing the damaged it cause from that video you would initially think that it is a bomb that exploded and not otherwise.

the picture taken by a blogger- reposted by inquirer w/ permission and reposted in this blog w/o permission. sorry .

a prayer

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pinoy big brother 2 celebrity edition housemates

1. William Devaughn Stumpf- "true lover"
2. Ma. Rosario Aguila- "mom in distress"
3. Megan Lynne Young- "princess of charm"
4. Riza Raquel Santos- "desirable diva"
5. Ruben Gonzaga- "komedyanteng promdi"
6. Victor Emmanuel Basa- "the lonely dreamboy"
7. 2 in 1 hm: Baron Frederick Von Geisler- "the wild child"
Donald David Geisler III- "the good brother"
8. 2 in 1 hm: Marylaine Louise Viernes- "brainy babe"
Jennifer Da Silva- "despised babe"
9. Gabriella Dela Merced- "racing goddess"
10. Marco Fundales- "the real Mcoy"
11. Zephora Aldana Mayon- "poor beauty queen"
12. Jonathan Mullaly- "english outcast"

13. Ethel Gabina- "ultimate pasaway"

last but not the least house guest: mariel rodriguez

the man of the hour: among ed. im proud and happy to say that my family supported him. my 2 sister even volunteered to be a poll watcher and we asked our friends, relatives and everyone we know to vote for him. Because of this man of God we kapangpangan [even i'm not fluent in the native language because both my parents came from south but i was born and raise here] know who among the politicians have personal interest in serving public office- local and even higher office.
why he is great?
- collection in quarrying in pamp. improve so much that they have found out the possibilities of anomalies during mark lapids term.
- he is the first politician who disclosed to public that he was given half a million when he went to malacanang.
it was really a courageous move that i pray for his safety.

another test: can't get enough with only one a day. are you slacker?
results:

ABOVE THE CROWD
Be Your Own Person

During high school you may hear your friends, parents or even a coach tell you to “just be yourself” – but what does that really mean? Knowing who you are and what you believe in is important. Recognizing the influences in your life (both good and bad) makes it easier for you to make important choices about who to hang out with and whether or not to try drugs or alcohol.

There is a complicated list of reasons why people try or use drugs. Some people do it to change the way they feel. Sometimes people use drugs to go along with the crowd and cover up their insecurities. Consider this — former users often say that drugs ended up isolating them from friends and family and made them feel even more alone.

Instead of going along with what some people are doing, you could spend more of your energy on you – your style, your viewpoints, and your own way of doing things. You can’t control what another person thinks about you. Isn’t it more worthwhile to work on what you think about yourself, and not try to shape someone else’s impression of you?

their verdict:

Just be yourself and hang with friends who encourage you to be who you are, and not who they want you to be.

Don't be too hard on yourself - you may be your toughest critic. Hang out with people who support you and be careful of people who are all about negativity.

i agree very much.

if you want to try click the icon below:

i love greys anatomy so i got curious who among them is my character so i'am dr. bailey. i'm hoping to be izzie because dr. bailey character is quite boring ... but it's true i'm boring i just don't have enough guts to be otherwise. so i always stay on the safe side and its boring. i thought of izzie because maybe i am just honest to the fact of liking to have a character that is acceptable and opposite to what i really am, to know or have experience to be on the other side. anyway just thinking to be other character than miranda whew! i don't know if i have the wit and the strength to face the consequence gracefully.

if you like would like to know who among them is your character click to icon below:

My Result: Dr. Miranda Bailey

Yes, Ma'am! You're always cool, calm, and very much in control, just like your Grey's Anatomy match Dr. Miranda Bailey. You don't worry about what other people think, and you know to trust your instincts. After all, someone has to be in charge, and it's a good thing someone as smart as you steps up to the plate.



Though some people may think you go a little overboard, you often know the best way to get things done, and you sure aren't afraid of a little dirty work. Without you, where would we be?

i tried another. for fun. i watched only a few times of sex and the city and i became curious who i am among the girls. this is the result:

You Are Most Like Carrie!

You're quirky, flirty, and every guy's perfect first date. But can the guy in question live up to your romantic ideal? It's tough for you to find the right match - you're more than a little picky. Never fear... You've got a great group of friends and a great closet of clothes, no matter what! Romantic prediction: You'll fall for someone this year... Totally different from any guy you've dated.

Which Sex and the City Vixen Are You?

honestly, i doubt it but who knows i am, i could be some kind of flirty gal or i was. and i am quite excited about the prediction.

why not? thanks smiley..

i'd like to know myself more so i've been taking different personality tests. here's one:

You Are An ISFJ

The Nurturer You have a strong need to belong, and you very loyal. A good listener, you excel at helping others in practical ways. In your spare time, you enjoy engaging your senses through art, cooking, and music. You find it easy to be devoted to one person, who you do special things for. In love, you express your emotions through actions. Taking care of someone is how you love them. And you do it well! At work, you do well in a structured environment. You complete tasks well and on time. You would make a good interior designer, chef, or child psychologist. How you see yourself: Competent, dependable, and detail oriented When other people don't get you, they see you as: Boring, dominant, and stuck in a rut click this if you like to try:

What's Your Personality Type?

I Didn't Mean To Make You Mine
by Nina

Don't give me a second chance
It'll be the same
You will be the consequence
And I will have the pain
You are something else that i have
I have to survive
That is why I say
With tears in my eyes

I wish I never opened up my heart
I didn't mean to love you baby
I wish I never let it get this far
I didn't mean to love you baby
If I could have a single wish
I'd turn back time
I didn't mean to make you
I didn't mean to make you
Mine

Don't look at me like I'm mad
I thought you would know
I was getting way too sad
It was gonna show
There was no way I could hide
I could hide the truth
So I took the risk
And fell for you

I wish I never opened up my heart
I didn't mean to love you baby
I wish I never let it get this far
I didn't mean to love you baby
If I could have a single wish
I'd turn back time
I didn't mean to make you
I didn't mean to make you
Mine

I didn't mean to make you hold me
I didn't mean to get so lonely
I didn't mean to say all this to you
I didn't mean to make you need me
I didn't mean to love you like I do
Look at what we've put us through

i've been hearing this song as music background of the koreanovela fashion 70's aired at qtv 11 mon-fri. and i just love it!

another story to tell, actually it's ancient a fable by aesop:

the two frogs

Once a upon a time there were two frogs. They were brothers. They could swim, they could jump about, and they liked to go off and have adventures.

One day they went away from the river bank where they lived, and they hopped into garden. They played there a long time, and when they had seen everything in the garden, they hopped right into the house itself.
By and by they came to the pantry where the food was kept. They were hungry but they could find nothing to eat, because frogs like the things they find by the river. They never eat meals, and they do not like bread and butter.

Both of them sprang up high to see what was in a large bowl on the shelf, and both of them landed inside it, right into the cream which had been set out there by the mistress of the house.

They swam round and round, and they went on swimming, because frogs cannot jump unless they have something solid to jump from. By and by it grew dark. The frogs were very tired swimming. One of them said, " i shall not swim any longer. what is the use? There is no end to this bowl, we shall never get out. We may as well stop swimming now, and drown before we get any more tired. " So he sank to the bottom of the bowl and he drowned.

But the other frog said to himself , " If i stop swimming right now, i shall certainly drown, but if i go on trying, something may happen. I shall go on swimming as long as i can."

So he swam, and he swam, round and round the bowl, all night long.

And something did happen. When morning came, the second frog found himself sitting on a little pat of butter that made without knowing it, by paddling all night with his legs.

Some people stop trying when things get difficult, but others succeed better than they ever thought possible, simply because they will not give up.

which one are you?

i think i'm someone who easily lose hope and give up and hoping to have the courage to step up for myself. so i could say i am living not just breathing.
i feel so negative about everything again i just try to ignore it. fear gets in my way and i'm so morbid.

oh Lord i thank you so much for each time that i am frightened or apprehensive about something i only call your name and i feel that i am safe and secure. i thank you for each time that you made my mind clear and the fears and anxiety is gone. i pray that you oh Lord that you always keep us safe my tatay, nanay, ate d, me, ishi and jho.

the desperate housewife:

the abc studios already apologize for the "racial slur" as they termed and i've heard from the news that they will going to edit that particular scene. Sad to say the apology was only made through an e-mail by abc to abs and accrdg. to one of the protesters who rallied in abc studios says that the management will not going to make an apology statement again. The damage is already done and i guess whatever the abc or the producers will do about that it won’t change that most Filipino will be negative about dh. But then the said racial slur had been aired and been watched by so many ; it is just right to do the apology publicly not only in an e-mail.

what's your nice-q?


i took the test to know my likeability. i'm surprised; i scored below average. click the icon below if you also want to try and don't read the rest of my entry yet:
q1: asking question is not really necessary when you really understood someone.

my ans. true
they didn't asked the why but i'm gonna tell why. first, question is being asked if you don't understand something. second,what question i'm gonna ask her/him because if i truly understand him/her i somehow know where her feelings coming from.

according to them: sorry. a common mistake in all relationships- effective communication requires putting yourself in the "other shoes"- asking questions and really listening in the first and most important step in any successful relationship.

reaction: ngek! but very well said somehow i'm convince.

q2: if you care for someone you will be nice to them without trying.

my ans: true
automatically you will be nice to person you care for because you don't want to upset them or make them feel bad about you.

according to them: sorry. we often assume we can or should be able to mind- read if we are close to someone. this is a mistake, we are often least nice to people we care about because we assume we do not need to try.

reaction: really... fine maybe there are times you can't be nice if she has offended you but definitely after awhile i find myself to talking to her especially with my sisters and then i just realized i shouldn't have talk to her first. but i did and things were good again as if nothing happens.

q3. if you do not know how the other person is feeling, it is hard to know how to be useful to them.

my ans: true
definitely because you won't know what exactly to tell or do for her.

according to them: correct. asking questions and assessing the other person's perspective is the first step to meeting their needs- whether personal or professional.
reaction: finally they agree with me.

q4. niceness is something that should come naturally.

my ans: true
man is naturally good person. good is a synonym of nice

according to them: sorry. niceness is a set of skills just like writing or effective communication- we need to work at it.

reaction: what?!

q5. Everyone has obstacles to niceness such as emotions, circumstances, life events.

my ans: true
it's hard to be nice when you feel bad unless your plastic.
according to them: i am correct. Our beliefs, attitudes way we were raised forms a model for behavior or a set of expectations about ourselves and others. If we feel we treated unfairly. if we are angry about something in our past we are less likely to be nice to others if we believe because we were raised that way or educated that way- that niceness is a separated and deserving goal in our lives, we will be more likely to override those models and practice niceness.

q6. Niceness may be nice, but it has little to do with success.

my ans. true
when you're successful you feel good and i just want to be nice to everyone and share that good feeling.

according to them: a common stereotypes is that you must be pushy to succeed, we believe and show otherwise.
reaction: that can't be true.

q7. if we believe nice behavior is linked to successful living, we will be more likely to change our attitudes and behavior.

my ans: false
one time my aunt says to me that there are attitudes that's so hard to change so whatever it is i just have to accept that and swear it help me a lot on how to adjust with some of the whims or quirks of my sisters.

according to them: when we believe that nice behavior is really a set of adaptive positive skills rather than just a wimpy politeness we are more likely to embrace it as a life strategy.

reaction: oh that makes me feel i'm bad person.

q8. it does not matter why you do a good deed as long as you do it.

my ans: false
because helping or being nice to other doesn't have to have reason as long as you're happy about it.

according to them:good deeds are way of starting positive cycles as well as having some direct benefits- either way- when you act well, it is better than acting badly or being exclusively self serving.

reaction: i think i have to agree.

q9. if you believe that a good deed is an investment, it is not an act of kindness but merely a self-serving gesture.

my ans. false
i believe in karma. what goes around comes around, what comes down must goes up.
by alicia keys but its true.

according to them: good deeds may very well be investments, but they still benefit both the doer- by making him/her feel good and potentially by establishing important connections and the receiver of the good deed.

reaction: i deserve something good.

q10. if we have been treated badly or rudely, we are more likely to act that way.

my ans. true
i believe that our actions are just reaction to how other people or our environment act to us.

according to them: i am right we have an impulse to " get even" or "be fair" that is sometimes difficult to override. we talk about giving a chance to pitch in an idea to a previously nasty boss. this is not our natural instinct, but one that pays off if we can manage it.

reaction: how about a drink to that?!

q11. being nice is often the same as being in good mood.

my ans: false
for simple reason that it's hard to be nice if your in a bad mood.

according to them: i'm wrong. we talk about being funny, complementing people and giving out candy to make a positive impression-all things we are- more likely to do when in a good mood. nice people would likely to describe as happy or friendly people.

reaction: honestly i don't get it.

q12. whether someone opens or sends thank-you notes is a reflection of superficial style, not what kind of person they really are.

my ans: true
sometimes we do things because that is what other people expect us to do.

according to them: i'm wrong. people are likely to make quite global judgments if someone fails to provide a polite gesture and maybe equally impressed is such a gesture is made. it behooves us to pay attention to the details.

reaction: whatever...

q13. making a positive impression can be a matter of simple gestures.

my ans: false

according to them: no other explanation and agree with me by saying plainly that; that's not right.

q14 People's manners are determined at an early age and are difficult to alter.

my ans: true
it is hard to deviate from what you used to be.

according to them: to some extent people's manner are introduced at an early age. They are never set. however, If at an early adults puts his/her mind to it, he/she can learn to be more attentive and sensitive to others thus making a more positive connection.

reaction: to some extent also i have to agree.

q15. We can usually separate the fact that someone is nice from whether/not that person likes us.

my ans: true

according to them: we tend to describe people as nice if they are nice to us. we see and notice the behavior is front of us to think, for example " she is not kind to me, but i bet she is overall a very nice person." Therefore we need to be careful with the impression we make, knowing people tend to make generalized judgments.

reaction:ok, i feel stupid now.

q16. being diplomatic is different from being nice.

my ans: false

according to them: being diplomatic is very similar to being nice-being careful with one's words and actions and sensitive to the others perspective.

reaction: i'm right!

q17. nice people are often seen as pushovers.

my ans: true

according to them: niceness can enhance not hinder one's success.

reaction: how come?

q18. when you act "as if" you like someone, you can change your relationship.

my ans: false
acting and not genuinely what you feel will make your relationship to the person worse.

according to them: this concept is at the root of all cognitive-behavioral intervention.
our thoughts and feelings often catch up our emotions. we frequently need to act "as if " we like someone to witness ourselves acting that way and then decide "wow i am acting this way i must like this person."

reaction:

q19. niceness is a state of mind.

my ans: true

according to them: niceness does not just come and stay . we are all sometimes crabby, sometimes we need to work on the skills associated with niceness such that they will come through in our daily lives.

q20. nice is a set of skills.

my ans. true

according to them: niceness is a set of skills that can be honed to better assists us in making our way to what ever goals we set for ourselves.



My overall scores 5 out of 20

verdict: i have to buy his book in order for me to learn to become more nice because being nice is a skill that can be learned.

reaction: fine i'm not nice and i don't want to be nice if i have to pay in $. thank you!

hot news today:

a scene from desperate housewife aired last sept. 30.

Dr. Mayfair:"... i know for a lot of women the word menopause has negative connotations, they hear aging, brittle bones, loss of sexual desires..."

Susan (teri hatcher): "okay, before we go further can i check those diplomas? 'Coz, I just want to make sure they're not from some med school in the Philippines. "

Dr. Mayfair: "look, there is simple blood test we can use to find out-"

Susan: " i don't need any test i am not old enough for menopause..."

she's susan played by teri hatcher the lois of superman i knew and i love her there that makes me watch desperate housewife. though i wasn't able to watch every episode i became somehow a fan because of the exaggerated frantic of each character in the series.
i think everyone who's responsible for that insult to our doctors should really make a public apology.

trying to be optimistic about it since it has already been aired i think the fact that remark has been said in one of a top rating tv series in the us makes me think that there's a lot of people think that way to our doctors i hope with this we can correct that notion.
. what you think?